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  Len Hodgeman

When is enough ... Enough?

9/8/2013

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     Burn that thought! I don't know about you, but it seemed to me growing up that I got a lot of messages telling me that I wasn't good enough. From the biblical teaching of original sin, to not living up to my parents' expectations, to teachers writing in my report cards that I didn't "work up to my potential." I've lived with the hope that someday I would be good enough, do enough, have enough, be loved enough.
     And the only way that I have figured takes me out of this endless trap is to continually work on accepting myself just the way I am - right now - as good enough. Not that I can't or won't change. Not that there aren't some things I'd like to change. But for now, I AM good enough. 
     Regardless of who in my life, or around me, may say otherwise. I am good enough. (Oh, by the way, so are you!)
     Sure I want to do more, be more, have more - but for this moment, I am enough. And what kicked this whole train of thought off was the question, "Am I blogging enough?" Yes, I am, even though I have thoughts that I'd like to be more regular about it, still I keep returning to it, and have for a few years now. 

How perfect is that?


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Dennis Crow
9/8/2013 12:55:58 pm

I could say 'who is it that thinks they are not good enough', or talk about 'story', but I'm trying to stretch a little here, so how about this: You're good enough, not 'just' good enough, but magnificent beyond anything you can even 'know'. AND, you want more! The fact that you want more is more validation re you being better than good enough than if you didn't want more. Read that over at least a couple of times. I know I did! :)
I've been trying to cultivate a response to criticism as just exactly the doorway I want to go through to be better, to transcending my current limits, to open a new and delicious taste of loving another instead of that sinking spiralling shame/guilt/failure feeling. Sometimes it's just feedback from others (such as yourself) that what I was giving wasn't so much what they wanted, other times it's clear projections, 'not about me', etc., but I am there and perhaps it could be another opportunity to love more than ever.
I still have that contracting visceral response, but I'm finding the doorway to the light, as it were, is opening faster and faster, and that is an activation of energy that is exquisite.
I love you man!

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